13th boys party.
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Last post: 13/03/2023 at 6:46 pm
Hi
Just need some advice and other people's thoughts really.
My son turned 13 so I has a group of 5his friends sleep over and brought them all pizza ect. Arranged for them to go paintballing explained to them I have a limit and if they want any more they put in 10quid each for extra paintballs and then they get more for their money. Rather than spending £8 each on a tub of 100. All put 10quid in il make the rest up and they get 1000balls.
This is bearing in mind I'd provided for each to have 150 balls each round and last round 200. For 10min games so more than plenty.
Along comes the day and we meet them there along comes another kid who's mum has paid for him who I knew nothing about... (his mum paid for him to participate not for balls..) 2of my sons mates who were included in the 5 invited this other child.but they all came with money.
Again baring in mind not one of them had got my son a present chocolate bar nothing. On either the sleep over or the paintballing.
Anyway first game happens 4of them get through 300 balls. There's not enough balls I need more... I gave them another 100 for second game they all kick off so I had to buy more. So iv then provided them with 3000balls my absolute imit for 6kids and for the cost.
3rd game comes up 2 go to buy a pot of 100 for themselves at £8. They are all running low on balls so I suggest instead buying ur self's all 100each all put 10quid together get 1000 they agree to it. 3of the kids have bank cards so I say pay me back.
Now me and my son are getting abuse from the kids and their parents that they shouldn't have to pay.
They've completely ignoring my son now an d bullying him at school saying we've mugged ur mum off why should we have had to pay.
Errm they were going to buy 100balls each at 8 quid so I saved them 45quid by getting them more balls.
Question is really should I be asking for the money back?
I provided more than enough. They took the mick really 4of them in the amount they used then ruining it for everyone else. I and my son are now getting disgusting pure filth abuse and the parents are all saying not my child and their not getting involved.
Just wondering if I'm really that in the wrong. I fully explained my limit ect provided them with food (snacks)and drink at paintballing.
Just made to feel iv done something very wrong. Not one them said thank you after either. Lesson very much learnt
Long term Mum of teenagers here, my oldest of 8 is 33 now and youngest is 15 so I've got the battle scars. These days they tend not to do birthday presents, not even cards and birthday parties are for little kids. If I take them and their friends paintballing or something it's not done as a birthday party, more like an outing with me providing transport and they all pay their own way. That way there is no confusion over who pays what. I'm afraid on this occasion you'll have to shoulder the cost but personally I'd make damned sure if you ever plan anything else they aren't invited, nasty little brats.
Sounds like they've all taken the mick out of you tbh. I would never have suggested the whole put money together as soon as they started pulling their own cards out... that's down to their parents to deal with what they spend. Shouldn't have brought cards with if they didn't want their "angels" to pay for anything. You tried to deal with the fact they have zero clue on budgeting and the fact someone decided to use you as a free babysitter too... cut your losses and never invite them to anything again.
Hi Vikki
That sounds like a horrible situation for your son to be getting abuse from his so called friends. Hope he can move on from their friendships and make new ones, because their behaviour I wouldn't want around my child.
Unfortunately I think you've learnt a hard lesson in kids parties and should probably just cover cost. If only to get these horrible other parents out of your life. 1 who doesn't cover the additional cost of their child in things like this and 2 who invites someone to someone else's birthday party. Sounds like a bunch of entitled brats to me.
I've been paintballing with a group of friends and made it clear that I've only covered the cost of the 1st batch of balls. If they run out they need to buy more or just sit out till the next round. One couple ran out and expected me to share what we had left. Umm nope.
Hope the kids being horrid to your son go away soon
They sounds horrible, entitled little sh**ts. Sadly it doesn't sound like there's a lot you can do because the parents sound equally awful! You're not in the wrong and if the abuse and bullying of your son continues you need to speak to the school.