Child's custody
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Last post: 15/04/2023 at 7:04 pm
Hello,
I need your advice because I am a bit confused. I would like to know what you would have done if you were in my situation. My partner and I no longer live together but he wants to see our daughter . She is 4 years old. She is currently leaving with me.
I don't want him to see our daughter, which makes me feel bad and guilty that I am not letting our daughter to see her father but the reason why I am not letting him see are the following :
On one occasion he slightly slapped me on my leg in anger. On another occasion he raised his hand, although he didn't hit me this time.
Once he was doing some DIY work and when he finished he put a drilling machine on our child's forehead, although the drilling machine was off and did not touch her forehead. He did this out of a joke because he was laughing. This incident happened when my little one was 4 months old.
I also caught him once naked and drunk although our daughter wasn't present at that time.
His behaviour was also awkward for example Get hyper and then all of a sudden he would get quite. He also asked me to blow a whistle for a few times without any reason. As a mother what decision you would have made? I want to know from your perspective, please and not from the courts perspective.
Sorry for my poor English because it's not my first language.
Thank you,
Hi Sai,
We've moved your thread into our drop-in clinic - unhealthy relationships board, so you can get the advice and support you need
Hi Sai,
I'm Emma, one of the Parent Supporters here at Netmums. I can hear you are concerned about your partners behaviour making you not want him to see your daughter. Do they currently have contact and you are thinking about stopping contact?
Your ex partner's behaviour seem slightly odd, do you feel your daughter would be unsafe in his care? Did you feel in danger when you were together as a couple? Would you feel comfortable discussing your concerns with your ex partner? I apologise for all the questions Sai, I'm just trying to get a better idea to help point you in the right direction for help.
There is a great free service called Family Action who provide support to individuals and whole Family Units if you would like to connect with them about your concerns regarding this, Family Action, Building stronger families (family-action.org.uk)
Hopefully some of our other community members will be along shortly to share their own help and experiences with you too.
Take care,
Emma