Save my marriage or let him walk

Move back to your family.

Take the children with you.

Start divorce proceedings.

This thread has been moved from category Divorce and separation to category Unhealthy relationships by Chelle

Hello

We've moved your thread to unhealthy relationships as we think it's a more appropriate board for this topic and you’re more likely to get responses here.

Hello Mara,

I'm so sorry to read that you are going through this. It sounds as though your partner's comments and behaviours towards you are really hurtful and it is no wonder you are feeling so low and lonely

You mentioned that he smashed your home Mara, can you tell us a bit more about what happened? Did the children see this happening?

You also talked a little about your husband's drinking, how often is he drinking? Does this cause his behaviour to change?

Mara, I can hear how far you are from your family and home town. Do your family know how you are feeling and what things are like for you right now?

Katie x

So sorry you are going through this. Your husband sounds very unreasonable, and your situation is very complicated and challenging, especially because of your special needs child. WIthout family and support, it must be very difficult!

Would you consider counseling, if that were an option? Christian counseling has helped me in the past. Having an unbiased opinion from someone who will give you practical, Godly, and wise advice and strategies to make life better was very helpful!

Dear one, please hang in there!!

Hi thanks for comments ladies we decided he moved out and be go out separate ways it's for best not being hit or abused nomore and no kids didt see it thank god since I got round he moving I was hurting cos memories but I'm coming round to it now sort my home out get organised get kids in routine get new car and do things ready for summer I'm in positive mind set it will be hard but I will be happy one day xxx

Hi Mara,

What a huge change you have made, one that sounds so much healthier for you and the children
I hear you when you say that it will be hard at times, but you don't deserve to ever feel afraid in your own home and things will get much easier Mara.

Has he left without causing you any issues or continuously contacting you?

Do you have any plans to move closer to your family and friends?

Katie x

Update I left him and in may 2021 found out he been sexually abusing my daughter and special needs son he then stabbed him self and humle dof motoreqy bridge to avoid the consequences but he in care home OK and alive ive got orders against him waiting on police investigation my kids are happy and safe

Hi Katie lot has happened since this he caused me hell when he left he refused see he kids when I went to work he say things like I'm using him but there he kids too in may 2021 I found out he was sexuqlly abusing gmy daughter and last yeah My austic son told me he had done stuff to him he jumped doff bridge stabbed him self he alive and awaiting court proceedings he signed my divorce papers I've got molestation order against him and child protection order ive now My own cleaning business just brought new car still looking to move home my kids are so happy and content wish I left long time ago my eyes are fully. Open now and he mentally physically emotionally abused me he tortured my mind and I see that now I'm so happy with my life atm

I'm not being controlled or abused or my home being smashed up I'm getting therapy I'm in much better positive state of mind all baiut making gmy kids happy keeping then safe x

Hello Mara,

It's so good to hear from you! Mara, I am so sorry to hear that you and your children have been through so much trauma because of your ex partner, but I can hear that you have come through it feeling really strong and doing a fantastic job of protecting your children and moving forward positively.

I am so happy to read that you are feeling happier and in control of everything.

Therapy sounds really beneficial, to have that safe space to work through difficult emotions and to start living life the way that you want to. Are your children receiving any therapy Mara?

Have a lovely weekend.

Katie x