AIBU?-Not allowed to take photos of my niece!
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Last post: 29/03/2023 at 8:31 pm
My sister has just had a baby girl and I'm so happy for her.
She's just sent out a group what's app message saying that they don't want photos of their daughter on social media which I completely respect. But, and this is where I have the slight issue, as they want to have total control over their childs digital footprint, everyone is banned from taking photos of their daughter. They will take photos of special occasions and with family members, but we cannot nor will these photos get shared with anyone. They are strictly for them only.
It makes me really sad that my parents will never have any photos of them with their grandchildren to put up in their house and the family albums will be missing my niece. We will have nothing to look back on of her life.
Is it me or is this a step too far?
It does seem a bit extreme.
If you are in the UK, they'd probably find it impossible to enforce legally.
There's no law preventing you from taking photos of your niece in a public place (in fact, with a few exceptions, there's no law preventing anyone taking photos of your niece if the photographer is in a public place), and if you are on private property all you need is the permission of the landowner or their representative.
However, only you can decide whether taking such photos would be worth the fallout from your sister.
It might be worth asking why your sister is trying to do this, and see if you can come to some sort of compromise.
Not sure why ypur parents can't or won't have photos hanging in their house?? Can't they simply take and print photos for them? That is not a digital footprint it's a photo in a house. I understand her concern for privacy, whether or not she's a diva acting like a celebrity. It's okay if it's your child to be vain and/or protective. She may change her opinion as time goes on. Is their relationship well? Is she hiding anything BTW? Things will change overtime just be patient.
I can just about understand the social media ban but they really need to get a grip.
Maybe ask your sister of they can set up the Family Album app? It's free and you have control over who can access it and who can add photos to it. Hopefully, it's just new baby hormones and they will allow you to take pictures in time.
Some parents are Weird!! I agree with her decisions of not on social media, but she should trust you to take photos and not put them anywhere.
It does sound extreme to me too, but it is the parents decision and you have to respect it.
To not respect it would gain you nothing but bad feelings.
Her kid her choice.
I imagine she won't have many friends when the kid starts school if she's going to be that mother who won't allow anyone to film/photograph kids plays or assemblies.
Her kid her choice.
I imagine she won't have many friends when the kid starts school if she's going to be that mother who won't allow anyone to film/photograph kids plays or assemblies.
So badly this! I absolutely hate with a burning I cannot extinguish the selfish woman who turned up (last) to our daughters nursery graduation that my self employed partner couldn't attend, because we literally couldn't afford to lose the work, and said she didn't want photos or video. Every single other parent had agreed immediately on arrival and they had to announce to everyone it wasn't possible. We lost the opportunity to share and commemorate that special moment. She goes to our school now and I hate it, thankfully the school is really clear about their policies and everyone can take photos and video of important events and those who want to have the option to opt their children out...funnily enough her child was in the nativity. Infuriating. Hate those kind of parents.
Are we related to the same person....
Got the exact same thing.... I can understand online and therefore sharing photos online as you don't know what these companies do with the information, and I think once on Facebook meta then own access to the photo (I think) and so that could go for WhatsApp etc but to put a ban on photos altogether is bizarre.
Although in some ways with a phone some people back their photos to the cloud and haven't got the correct controls so may lose rights to that image etc. So if you want to be that "anal" then photos only by digital camera or even a automatic printing camera.
My nephews weren't allowed to my wedding and it still upsets me that they aren't in the photos with all their cousins and family but they arent my kids....parents had their reasons even if I didn't understand
Confused as.......
I understand social media, myself and OH asked the same, no pics please!
Agree with others, maybe it's baby hormones, give them time and I'm all will change, just go along with it for now to keep the peace not worth arguements
So badly this! I absolutely hate with a burning I cannot extinguish the selfish woman who turned up (last) to our daughters nursery graduation that my self employed partner couldn't attend, because we literally couldn't afford to lose the work, and said she didn't want photos or video. Every single other parent had agreed immediately on arrival and they had to announce to everyone it wasn't possible. We lost the opportunity to share and commemorate that special moment. She goes to our school now and I hate it, thankfully the school is really clear about their policies and everyone can take photos and video of important events and those who want to have the option to opt their children out...funnily enough her child was in the nativity. Infuriating. Hate those kind of parents.
Same here. He's self employed, Im stuck to term time hours so can't leave my class to attend events at my kids school. Grandparents attend and video. Or as it is now... Don't as there's a couple of namby pamby mums.