I have a very upset 8yr old, who says he wants to die- help
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Last post: 23/03/2023 at 2:04 pm
My 8 yr old has just come home from school and he's burst into tears as his Dad asked him to tidy his room-nothing unusual about that.
However, I followed him upstairs to find him distraught lying under his duvet saying that he wanted to die.
I've comforted him and talked to him about what is upsetting him, he's told me that a girl has been pushing him at school, children take the mick out of his handwriting, he's no good at sports and the teaching assistant is mean to him.
He has an anger problem and cannot stop himself when he is upset- he turns red, shakes, stamps his feet, swears, cries and hits people.
He is a very clever little boy, and his teacher has recognised this and put him on the Gifted, Young and Talented register (whatever that is??)
My husband has just told me that he caught our son last week trying to tie the dressing gown cord around his neck.
I don't know what to do, I love him to bits and it really upsets me that he doesn't want to live anymore.
His teacher mentioned a scholarship to a private school for when he is 11, and I think he overheard her, he now worries that he'll not be good or popular enough to get in.
Our Doctors are useless when it comes to kids. Help
Want about seeing the school nurse? I know a friend of mine who has an 8 yr old daughter with similar problems from the school nurse helpful as she was able to get a referal to a psychologist who was able to talk to her about her problems.
Faye
you should definitely get him assessed by a gp
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phone and speak to these people tell them you're problems with your doctor not helping enough.
it's really important to get this sorted
goodluck x x
My 8 yr old has just come home from school and he's burst into tears as his Dad asked him to tidy his room-nothing unusual about that.
However, I followed him upstairs to find him distraught lying under his duvet saying that he wanted to die.
I've comforted him and talked to him about what is upsetting him, he's told me that a girl has been pushing him at school, children take the mick out of his handwriting, he's no good at sports and the teaching assistant is mean to him.
He has an anger problem and cannot stop himself when he is upset- he turns red, shakes, stamps his feet, swears, cries and hits people.
He is a very clever little boy, and his teacher has recognised this and put him on the Gifted, Young and Talented register (whatever that is??)
My husband has just told me that he caught our son last week trying to tie the dressing gown cord around his neck.
I don't know what to do, I love him to bits and it really upsets me that he doesn't want to live anymore.
His teacher mentioned a scholarship to a private school for when he is 11, and I think he overheard her, he now worries that he'll not be good or popular enough to get in.
Our Doctors are useless when it comes to kids. Help
Lizzie
You son sounds very sad at the moment and this must be making you feel really upset.
It is really important that you go into school and make an appointment to speak to the teacher ideally when your son is not around. There are obviously a number of things that are worrying him and each of them needs to be addressed by the school. I would also ask them for the contact details of the school nurse. Are you able to speak to the school tomorrow?
In addition to this please do call Young Minds as they will be able to offer you some very supportive advice over the phone.
Emma
I was just wondering how things are and if you have managed to speak to the school yet? Another avenue of support that you may want to discuss is CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service). They are there to help with behaviour, anger and self esteem issues amongst other things.
Emma
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My 8 yr old has just come home from school and he's burst into tears as his Dad asked him to tidy his room-nothing unusual about that.
However, I followed him upstairs to find him distraught lying under his duvet saying that he wanted to die.
I've comforted him and talked to him about what is upsetting him, he's told me that a girl has been pushing him at school, children take the mick out of his handwriting, he's no good at sports and the teaching assistant is mean to him.
He has an anger problem and cannot stop himself when he is upset- he turns red, shakes, stamps his feet, swears, cries and hits people.
He is a very clever little boy, and his teacher has recognised this and put him on the Gifted, Young and Talented register (whatever that is??)
My husband has just told me that he caught our son last week trying to tie the dressing gown cord around his neck.
I don't know what to do, I love him to bits and it really upsets me that he doesn't want to live anymore.
His teacher mentioned a scholarship to a private school for when he is 11, and I think he overheard her, he now worries that he'll not be good or popular enough to get in.
Our Doctors are useless when it comes to kids. Help
Number 1. well done for talking to him & finding out what's causing him to feel this way.
Number 2. Speak to the school, and tell them exactly what he's been going through & that you need their help to stop this happening again, and also to help him understand he IS clever & that if other children are nasty, it's not because of anything he's done. Also, he needs to understand that he's been put forward for this scholarship because HE IS clever ! it doesn't matter if his hand writing isn't as neat as other children's !
Number 3 . If your doctors surgery won't help, then maybe you need to speak to a Health Visitor - failing that, you can always change surgeries & make a complaint. You could always ring Family Support via Social Services, who will help your son & help you to help him also.
I hope this helps hun, and if you want to talk further, Inbox me. H xxx
p.s. this info may help xxx
Parenting Support (Devon County Council)
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Hi lizzie i would reach out to your doctor and get on a waiting list for camhs my son had so many anger issues and always argued with his friends when playing outside but could be very manipulative and would always say it was there fault the did not like him and his sna teacher in school was so mean to him he wanted to die and would say he would stab himself or jump out the window we where so upset got locks for all the windows hid all the knifes from him he was dignosed with adhd and he was put on medication that changed our lifes and his i hope your son gets the support he needs x