Intimidating manager

Hi everyone,

I am writing this post to share my experience and seek advice on how to handle a difficult situation at work. I am 8 weeks pregnant and the only woman in my team. My manager’s tone has always been intimidating but I put up with it because I didn’t want it to affect my career. This week we were supposed to go to the office and I couldn’t go because of severe morning sickness and had to let him know the reason. My nausea is very bad, I even was diagnosed with dehydration in the hospital and lost weight. However, I am pushing through it and not taking any sick leaves as we have heavy workload these days. I thought he would be appreciative of this and more understanding since I told him about my pregnancy and sickness and will watch his usual intimidating tone. However nothing has changed. Despite me pushing though this and doing all my work, he makes very unpleasant remarks. For example, today I asked a colleague to double check a report he has done last month as it seemed to me there was an error in that report. Then my manager told me literally “Can I ask you not to ask other people to do your job?”. Apparently I was supposed to check what was wrong with my colleague’s report on top of the work I am doing at the moment with my own reports. I don’t mind him asking me that, but the tone… This made me burst into tears after we finished our call and I have been crying whole evening since. I am worried this stress can affect me and my baby. I tried to talk to him about his tone couple of times before and every time he apologises, promises to watch his tone, but nothing changes. I am hoping to hear from other women who have gone through similar situations or have any advice on how to handle this situation.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I appreciate any advice or support you can offer.