I know I’m so lucky to have him but I think he will end up dead if he carries on
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Last post: 06/01/2023 at 9:54 pm
What can I do?
I’m 37 my partner is 27 we’ve been together a few years. He has no children of his own and doesn’t want more he’s happy with my 13&15yo. He has a good job and always works so much overtime so we can have extras (around 60/70 hours a week) he will work 4am- 4/7 pm daily he will do this 5/6 days a week sometimes 7 and he will do it on 5 hours sleep. He then comes home and potters. I cook he does washing up, laundry, vacuuming, gardening. He’s just none stop. He adores the kids he will do football with my boy and help my daughter when needed. He’s so exhausted sometimes he falls asleep on his feet.
It’s lovely to have him but he gets sick a lot (still goes to work) and he’s always tired. Today I’ve had a day off and he’s been out all day. I know he was tired at 3:30am when he went to work. I’ve had a duvet day on the sofa and not done anything. I told him this so he says “I’ll get it when I get home” there was to tooing and frowing “don’t do it”
”I don’t mind” and I just said no you are coming home not lifting a finger and going to sit under the duvet and watch a film with me. I’ve literally had to tell him no. I worry about him at times. I’d be dead on 4/5 hours sleep a night. I’m struggling to get up at 7 and he wakes at 3:30. I plan nice things but he’s always exhausted.
Hi Haylz
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Hi Haylz,
Your partner sounds incredibly caring and hardworking, which I can hear that you really appreciate, but you are really wanting to spend some more time with him, as well as feeling worried for his health.
When you told him to sit and watch a film with you, was he able to manage that?
Has he always been this way Haylz?
Does he feel stressed with himself for keeping himself so busy, or does he seem to thrive on going from one thing to the next?
Can you think of any times when he has been able to kick back and relax?
Katie x
Hi Haylz,
Your partner sounds incredibly caring and hardworking, which I can hear that you really appreciate, but you are really wanting to spend some more time with him, as well as feeling worried for his health.
When you told him to sit and watch a film with you, was he able to manage that?
Has he always been this way Haylz?
Does he feel stressed with himself for keeping himself so busy, or does he seem to thrive on going from one thing to the next?
Can you think of any times when he has been able to kick back and relax?
Katie x
He managed to sit and watch. He wasn’t always like this he was young and had never kept a home when he moved in. He just gets poorly and tired all the time