Daughters friend hungry
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Last post: 30/03/2023 at 2:00 pm
My daughter is 8 and is very kind and compassionate. She has a very close friend that I don't know very well as her mum won't let her come for play dates as she has lots of siblings and is too busy.
My daughter has said that her friend is always hungry. Apparently she doesn't get any breakfast and only has a sandwich in her lunch box, no snacks. My daughter shares her lunch with her friend and has asked me to put extra food in so she can give it to her.
This is where I am unsure what to do. I don't particulary want the financial burdon of feeding another child, but I aslo can't bare to think of her going hungry.
DH also thinks the mum may be annoyed if she finds out that I'm sending food in for her daughter.
What should I do?
Have a quiet word with the school about your daughters observations. They will know about any medical needs, restricted diets, etc. They also have the option to provide additional food, a free school meal, check the parent's entitlement to FSMs or follow up on any financial issues.
Schools often ensure some get larger portions, second servings or food sent home when they have the full picture.
Sharing food without knowing about any allergies etc may not be a good idea.
Have a quiet word with the school about your daughters observations. They will know about any medical needs, restricted diets, etc. They also have the option to provide additional food, a free school meal, check the parent's entitlement to FSMs or follow up on any financial issues.
Schools often ensure some get larger portions, second servings or food sent home when they have the full picture.
Sharing food without knowing about any allergies etc may not be a good idea.
Many thanks for your reply.
I think I will speak to school. The class teacher is very unapproachable so may try to speak to the head teacher.
I'm fairly sure that there are no allergies as the friend attended my daughters pizza making birthday party and I had to ask mum regarding allergies then.
Yes speak to the school, they will know how to support the family!! Praise your daughter for caring for her friend
My son is so skinny but eats and eats and eats. I can cook bacon and cheese quesadillas in the morning and he will still eat some packed lunch on the way to school.
I get calls home saying M is saying he didn't get any breakfast this morning. I went through this with all three of my kids.
One even cried at school because we were too poor to buy food🤦 so they sent food home every week. I had to give up my job and had less spare money, but my parents are well off so we definitely weren't going hungry!
So yes, tell the school just incase, but don't worry about it, it may just be a case of her wanting more
I see you've got the right advice & that you are going to be doing that & contacting the school, I'm just going to add that rather than contacting the headteacher another (maybe better) option could be to contact the schools home school link worker/liaison officer (job title can vary between education providers) just incase the family are already known for & being assisted with any difficulties, it will be the HSLW that would be providing that support & liaising with any other agencies.
Yes since your daughter asked
I see you've got the right advice & that you are going to be doing that & contacting the school, I'm just going to add that rather than contacting the headteacher another (maybe better) option could be to contact the schools home school link worker/liaison officer (job title can vary between education providers) just incase the family are already known for & being assisted with any difficulties, it will be the HSLW that would be providing that support & liaising with any other agencies.
That's really helpful, thank you.