Ex threats
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Last post: 09/04/2023 at 8:20 pm
Was seeing bipolar and weed addict/dealer man for a few months. Had pregnancy and miscarriage, lost baby at 5 weeks, didn’t end up going hospital/doctor but ex kept going on about me going so I said I did. He threatened suicide which I thought was due to loss of baby so I said pregnancy wasn’t true, I couldn’t bear him ending his life. We got back together for a couple of weeks but when I went away he started questioning everything, accused me of being up to something I shouldn’t (cheating was inferred), ended it and said prove and pregnancy/miscarriage (which I can’t) and then he’ll talk to me. It was second time in 5 weeks he ended it. He contacted my family and work saying I faked pregnancy and miscarriage and he’s trying to turn people against me. I know I shouldn’t have lied but how do I begin to get over it? I miss him. He’s changed his number so no contacting him. He is abusive to one of his dogs and he said he’ll always be a weed dealer. I don’t know how to get over the heartache. I love him and he does have a kind side
Hi Sophie,
We've moved your thread into our drop-in clinic - unhealthy relationships board, so you can get the advice and support you need
Hi Sophie,
I'm Emma, one of the Parent Supporters here at Netmums. Sending you gentle hugs this evening, I can hear how upset you are due to your relationship ending. Heartache is horrible and a cruel part of loving someone. How are you doing this evening?
I'm sorry to hear you suffered a miscarriage, have you managed to receive any support for this yourself? it sounds like during this time you had to be the main support for your partner and I'm wondering who was supporting you and your needs Sophie? I hope you have family or friends you can lean on at this time?
You mentioned your ex has bipolar and an addiction to cannabis, how much did this impact your relationship? Sometimes we want to help someone so much but it becomes at the detriment of our own health and needs. Your ex sounds like he needs to focus on himself right now and getting to a better place mentally, maybe no contact right now is a good time to focus on yourself too and getting back to some self care time?
Hopefully some of our other lovely community members will be along shortly to help too with their own experiences.
Take care,
Emma