Daughters boyfriend

Hi Gailsmum,

I'm Catherine, one of the Parent Supporters here at Netmums. Thank you for reaching out and sharing. I can hear how worried you are about your daughter and I see you had a some support on a previous post a few weeks ago. I notice that our Parent Supporters at the time had suggested you contact NSPCC - did you get the chance to do that? Another useful source of support is CEOP and their website - here is the link: Concerned about your child? (thinkuknow.co.uk)

You've shared 'she is very strongly willed and I'm scared of pushing her away'. I wonder have you been able to maintain your relationship with her - I realise that can be hard if she doesn't share your concerns but I think you are absolutely right to try to avoid pushing her away. She needs to know how much you love her and that you are always there for her. It's important for her to know that she has a safe space with you but hopefully you can still be open with her about why you are worried.

Hopefully some of our community will be along soon to offer support but in the meantime, please come to us if you would like to chat some more.

Catherine

Hi,

I have kept in touch with her while she was away with him, I dont think she is in any danger and after talking to the NSPCC they say there is not much I can do unless she reports a complaint.

She is comming home tomrrow so hopefully we can talk thngs through together. Thanks for being intrested.

Hi Gailsmum,

I'm Emma, one of Catherine's colleagues here at Netmums. Thank you for your reply and sharing an update, it's good to hear your daughter isn't in any danger, wishing you all the best for the talk with your DD tomorrow.

Take care,

Emma

Hi Emma,

She got home at mid day and we had a long talk together. she told me all about his big house, horse riding, all of the things he got for her and things like that, she didnt want to talk about their relationship but she said that she really likes him a lot.

She said he didn't make her do anything she didn't want to but they had sex a lot but didn't go into detail, when I asked about birth control she said I shouldnt worry and that she isn't stupid.

I hope it turns into one of those things that you rember but dont regret to much, he does seem like a nice guy but I am still concerned, he is 15 years older than me, let alone her.

She wants to stay at his place in docklands next weekend and for all of us to go to dinner so I can see what he is like, i'm not sure if thats a good idea.

Anyway, thanks for listening to me blather on

Hi Gailsmum,

I'm glad you had a good talk and your daughter is able to be honest and open with you about her relationship, it's positive to keep your communication going especially when you have concerns yourself.

What concerns you about going to his place at the Docklands? It may be a good opportunity to meet him and feel a little more familiar with who he is, it may bring some reassurance?

Best wishes,

Emma

It would feel like im condoning it, she has been showing me the camera and laptop he got her along with a load of clothes, must have cost him thousands.