How to leave a relationship that isn’t working , I’ve been with my partner 3 years we have a child together I feel exhausted and worn down from the day we met his ex stalked abused threatened me and he bow down to her every demand as he has a child to her she has the life of Riley due to him ,she done terrible things to me and throughout my pregnancy i was tormented by her I got calls in the night saying who’s the daddy moo etc saying he preferred blonds said he goes with prostitutes and he was only with me cause he couldn’t have her . She would say he begged her back while with me which he denied but he never cut her off says he had to play it her way to try see his child but she never let him see . we fell out a lot due to her and each time he would tell her and ask to see his child which she loved she would make sure I new he had told her we fell out by posting on her fb thing like stop asking me back then say things like your so desperate he is begging me back and you can’t see it , he denied it said he only asked to see his child , she done things constant then he signed his house to her said he wanted his child to her to have a bought home as she didn’t work with been on benefits and having a council house so this caused huge problems for us so I gave him a ultimatum if he gave her it we where over so he went to a lawyer to reverse what he signed she got a letter from the lawyer went crazy but we stood our ground she got really nasty called social services on me while pregnant made up all these lies they came seen me and seen through her lies they told us to cut all contact with her their words where you don’t know what version you will get keep yourselfs safe , the. He contacts he again a few weeks later it was the child birthday and he asked to see the child few emails she ignored then we get the police at the door she has said it was unwanted contact and he was harassing her she then calls him private number says she will leave us alone if he just gives her his house which he says yes I fell out with him he was away for a few days and had been in touch with her again even went a school run with her I was livid that he even wanted to talk to her after what she put us through but apparently I was in the wrong he wanted time with his child , she claimed to sleep with him again as she has 100 times fast forward and I’ve had the baby he’s gave her his house she isn’t letting him see his child unless leaves us . He told her he wasn’t going to end us and she done what she always has I was getting calls private number saying I was trash he loves her he’s been with her Etc I’ve now a new number and we haven’t heard from her for 2 months but I hate him for doing everything she wanted he’s now in a lot of debt he gave her his house that he renovated and left her all his furniture brand new we have to start again we need a bigger house as and we aren’t in the position to do so cause of it . She gets £650 per month csa off him aswell he earns a good wage but had been left in 30+ grand pf debt renovating that house she has , I’ve 3 children I’ve always worked full time and do my best I took a year off working while I had our baby it was maternity leave so my job was still there and all he said was I better get back to work as the maternity pay didn’t stretch the full year but I didn’t care I wanted time with my baby I worked nightshift uptill the week before the baby Was born , he was so unsupportive when my pay went down I started a new job full time just better hours and closer to home and feel like nothing I do is good enough I work I run a house I pay my way but he’s always moaning and I resent him for knowing all he did for his ex who never worked yet I am and trying my best . I hate him at times and wish I ended it when I was pregnant I’ve never had a birthday or Christmas presents off him ye she got expensive things but apparently he doing it fr a quiet life 😕 I stayed with him while his ex put me through hell and he allowed it , and in arguments he will say he lost seeing his child cause of me I done nothing but meet someone who has a crazy ex and I’ve tried to stay sane through it yet she’s the one who’s living in luxury while we aren’t and i get the blame for all their crap . I hate the full situation. Total rant sorry but I can’t see this ever working.

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Last post: 14/01/2023 at 9:05 am

Nanette G(3)

14/01/2023 at 12:21 am

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Tilly T

Just thought I would give an update , we split up New Year’s Day and it’s been so much better he’s moved in with family until he sorts his own place and I am finally having a clear head focusing on my little family without there drama . Thanks for the comments

You have done the right thing, and glad he has moved out. Remember after everything you have said, never allow him to coerce you back into a relationship by saying he misses you etc etc. You are strong and never go back to the way you felt before. You have known for a while you weren't happy and I'm sure you are feeling amazing and remember you and your child comes first, your feelings are 100% valid and never forget this. Stay strong and remember you are better off without as he never put you first and will never put your child first xx

Kelly K(371)

14/01/2023 at 9:05 am

In answer to

Tilly T

Well done Tilly. I'm so relieved you split. You take care of you and your kids. You all deserve better and hopefully you never have to have anything to do with that vile woman ever again. Your ex is weak and didn't prioritise you as you know. Hopefully he can be better for the child you do have together. X

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