Sister rude to 4yr old bedwetter
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Last post: 14/04/2023 at 2:08 pm
Just wanted to get people's opinions. DD has just turned 4 and still isn't dry at night. I work in a reception class and know that many of kids still aren't dry at night. We still use a regular nappy on DD as she doesn't wake up in the night and has never kicked up a fuss. She wakes up with a very full nappy in the morning and would rather wear it than have wet sheets. My sister was round the other night dropping of DD's birthday card and I had just got DD ready for bed. She obviously saw the nappy out the top of the pyjama bottoms and said to me "Isn't she a bit old for them now?" to which DD heard and was very embarrassed about.
I calmed DD down as she got a bit upset about it all and thankfully she was fine. Am I being unreasonable still using a nappy?
Alot of children when they first start school still wear nappies at night. Obviously the ideal is fully out of them but some take a little longer then others. I think its reasonable to be upset especially if said near D.D who became upset .
Hi, my son was 5 before dry through the night , it's a hormone they develop as get older some sooner than others some I know end up having to get treatment due to not having the correct hormones, dont know exact medical dialogue, but very very common.
Was very rude of your sister to say it in front of your DD, I'm presuming she doesn't have children as these are definitely things you learn along the way.
Not worth falling out with your sister about it but would possibly say to her that some things should not be said in front of little ears.
You're not the unreasonable one here. We all develop at different rates and if she's not there with dry nights yet, you're doing the right thing.
Shaming her is going to do nothing but make her feel bad, who would do that to a family member you're supposed to love, and as another member said it is down to a hormone which kicks in.
I think your sister needs to be told to keep her unhelpful comments to herself.
Hopefully she didn't realise ur daughter was in earshot and feels bad. It took my son longer at night to get dry at I think he was 3 n half or a bit over? Have u tried anything to help her at night? Waking her up in the night to go for a wee? Or maybe the feeling of wet sheets will trigger her to hold it or wake up her self? My son wasn't wet at night it was pooping at night , its like his body was jst trained to poop in the night and it took time and many late night trips to the bathroom lol
Some people aren’t as tactile as others and she may not have meant or realised she’s caused so much upset, might be worth a comment about it just mentioning how upset your daughter was overheating. You’ll know your sister and her intentions. I have 3 chn one late teen on mid teen and one preschool. Late teen was dry by aged 3 day and night, middle is still wet at night - have daughters support but ultimately answer is - he will get there (I was 13 before I was dry) and my pre school (almost 4) was about to embark on nighttime knickers but hold-up she started being soaking each day when she woke so there’s no point. I’ll wait and as long as you and your little one feel okay then you can wait too. There’s no right or wrong way - and unfortunately no guide book :)
take care, try not to second guess your decisions and have faith in your parenting oh and never compare!
Some people aren’t as tactile as others and she may not have meant or realised she’s caused so much upset, might be worth a comment about it just mentioning how upset your daughter was overheating. You’ll know your sister and her intentions. I have 3 chn one late teen on mid teen and one preschool. Late teen was dry by aged 3 day and night, middle is still wet at night - have daughters support but ultimately answer is - he will get there (I was 13 before I was dry) and my pre school (almost 4) was about to embark on nighttime knickers but hold-up she started being soaking each day when she woke so there’s no point. I’ll wait and as long as you and your little one feel okay then you can wait too. There’s no right or wrong way - and unfortunately no guide book :)
take care, try not to second guess your decisions and have faith in your parenting oh and never compare!
Just spotted loads of typos! *doctors support not daughter
No child should feel pressure and they are all different so she will get there when she is ready your sister was very wrong to say that in front of her and you should have a word when your daughter is not around and let her know how it made your daughter feel
It is normal not to dry at night at that age. It is all to do with a hormone. You can't force it. Every child is different and the Gp won't do anything till they are 8. And can still be an issue for years after that. Dont let people make you feel Guilty. Just make sure they are drinking plenty through the day. You can also get tips and info on Web page called ERIC. Don't worry.
Not at all hun, my daughter will be 7 in September and we still use nappy pants for bedtime just in case. She’s been dry a few weeks now but as soon as she’s overtired or poorly she has an accident so I’ll keep using them until I’m 100% certain as it saves wet sheets and tears in the early hours. Xx
Well considering nighttime dryness is achieved once the hormone vasopressin has developed, your sister evidently doesn't have a clue.. Its very normal and doctors don't even investigate it until they hit 7years old, I believe. It can't be helped, it's the medical norm. Just hit her with the facts x..
Of course you're not being unreasonable, she needs it if she's wetting every night. Ou don't want to be changing sheets every day. She's only just turned 4 bless her and many are the same as you say. Staying dry over night is hormonal so not really something you can rush or control. Your other option could be to "lift" her in the night so she has to go for a wee and it may not then wet again, but if she has a very heavy nappy she may be doing more than one wee so it's disturbing her for no reason. Keep doing what you're doing and she will be dry eventually. My nephew was 6 before he was. Xx
Oh bless her, that is out of order from your sister. Our girls are 3 and 4 and they both need a nappy at night still. There is nothing to be embarrassed about, we put it on about an hour before bed with their pj’s so that it’s part of their routine
No you aren't wrong to use nappies at night until hormones change she will not stay dry at night and you will end up with wet bed. She was in the wrong to comment.
i feel for your daughter . She’s only little 👧🏻
lots of 4 yr olds wear nappies at night. Even 7 year olds aren’t reliably dry at night.
can you tell your sister not to comment on what you do in your own house again? I’d be livid if that was me
does she have kids of her own?