My past is affecting my new relationship
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Last post: 06/04/2023 at 9:41 am
I'd recently started seeing someone and I'd fallen for him big time, he is such a nice caring man that cares about how I'm feeling and is very good with my three children he is also very good with my 16 year old son who is verry difficult at times but it it doesn't phase him at all.. it was all going good in till social services went to visit him to tell him that due to my three children being under my mother's care and not mine because of a very bad choice I made 11 years ago that they don't think I'm a suitable adult to be around his children so I am unable to have any contact with his three children who are 7, 11 and 14. I'm not the same person I was when my kids were put in my mother's care and I'm so much more than I was then, 11 years is a long time.. I would like some advice on how I can change this so that the social services no longer have a problem with me being around his children because now he wants to end it and I'm so gutted that a bad choice 11 years ago is still affecting my life right now.
Hi Alison,
I'm Catherine, one of the Parent Supporters here at Netmums. Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like a really difficult situation for you - sending you a gentle hug this evening. Have you been able to chat with your partner? Have you any support from friends or family?
Netmums also have a Legal board and a partnership with a Solicitor's Firm called Goodlaw. You might like to start a thread for support there too. I'll link the boards here: Legal and social services - Netmums Forum
Hopefully some of our community will be along soon to offer support but please come back to us if you want to chat some more.
Take care
Catherine
Hi Alison,
I'm Catherine, one of the Parent Supporters here at Netmums. Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like a really difficult situation for you - sending you a gentle hug this evening. Have you been able to chat with your partner? Have you any support from friends or family?
Netmums also have a Legal board and a partnership with a Solicitor's Firm called Goodlaw. You might like to start a thread for support there too. I'll link the boards here: Legal and social services - Netmums Forum
Hopefully some of our community will be along soon to offer support but please come back to us if you want to chat some more.
Take care
Catherine
I managed to speak to my partner today and he has said that he would like to carry on seeing me when he doesn't have his children and then in time we can sort out the situation with the social services. I think I may of possibly been overreacting to what he said to me as we hadn't really had a chance to speak properly about it. I'm feeling a bit more positive about it now tho see what happens. Thank u verry much tho for your help
I managed to speak to my partner today and he has said that he would like to carry on seeing me when he doesn't have his children and then in time we can sort out the situation with the social services. I think I may of possibly been overreacting to what he said to me as we hadn't really had a chance to speak properly about it. I'm feeling a bit more positive about it now tho see what happens. Thank u verry much tho for your help
Hi Alison,
I'm Emma, one of Catherine's colleagues here at Netmums. I'm glad you've had a reassuring talk with your partner and you are able to continue your relationship. It sounds very positive what the future may hold for you all.
Take care,
Emma