Coping with miscarriage

Last modified on Wednesday 10 October 2018

If you've recently had a miscarriage, it can be hard to know how to cope and move one. We have advice on how to cope in the weeks and months after a miscarriage and where to go for support – because knowing that you're not alone really can help.

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How long will it take me to recover after a miscarriage?

It will take time for you to recover - both physically and emotionally - from your miscarriage .

Every loss is individual so there is no 'normal' in how long it takes to process what has happened... or to grieve your loss. Take your time and talk to those around you for support.

In terms of your physical recovery, again this is different for everyone. It may take from a few days to a few weeks. Lots of things can have an impact on how long it takes to recover, including how much bleeding you've had.

If you're worried about how long it is taking you, including concerns about bleeding after miscarriage or any discoloured discharge, you should always talk to your GP.

In terms of periods after miscarriage, most women will find they get a period four to six weeks after. Again, there are no hard and fast rules. Keep in contact with your doctor if you're worried.

When can I have sex again after a miscarriage?

Generally you're advised to wait until any bleeding is finished to reduce the risk of infection.

Emotionally however, it can be harder to make this step, and you should wait until you feel ready. You may experience lots of different emotions after losing a baby, so it's important to talk to your partner about how you are feeling.

You can also talk to your doctor if you have any worries.

When can I try for a baby after having a miscarriage?

The advice is usually to wait until you have had at least one period after your miscarriage before trying again.

But don't worry if you get pregnant before this - you won’t be at higher risk of a miscarriage.

The exception to this is if you have had complications such as an ectopic or molar pregnancy, or other health issues connected to the miscarriage such as an infection. If this is the case, speak to your GP and get advice before trying for a baby again.

Should I be concerned about having another miscarriage?

It’s important to remember that the vast majority of women who have had miscarriages go on to enjoy perfectly normal pregnancies free of complications.

Even those who have had recurrent miscarriages (three or more) have a high chance of conceiving and carrying a baby to full term without any problems.

When you do get pregnant after having a miscarriage, you might feel a bit like you're walking on egg shells, especially if it's happened more than once before.

The truth is if you're healthy and looking after yourself, there is little else you can do to control the destiny of the pregnancy. The main things to ensure are that you eat welland avoid alcohol, smoking and too much caffeine.

It's natural to feel a little anxious and emotional but it helps to talk about your feelings and share advice - especially with other mums who have experienced miscarriage .

I feel so low - where can I get support?

Talking about what you've been through can be a great form of release and can help you come to terms with your loss.

We have a dedicated forum for mums who have been through the pain of miscarriage and can offer reassuring words and lots of comforting advice.

There are also lots of specialist support groups who can offer you help and the opportunity to speak to others who have been through a similar ordeal.

The Miscarriage Association offers support if you've suffered a miscarriage.

Aching Arms is a baby loss charity run by a group of bereaved mothers who have experienced the pain and emptiness of leaving hospital without their much wanted baby.

Saying Goodbye provides information and support for anyone who has lost a baby. They also hold remembrance services all around the UK for anyone who has suffered a miscarriage, early term loss or early infant loss.