Advice on being lazy
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Last post: 11/04/2023 at 9:10 pm
Hi all. This is a strange post but hoping someone might be able to advise me something. I have recently become very lazy and have a lack of concentration. I can't get the energy or motivation to do work when I'm at work! I have to push myself to read long paragraphs as I feel lazy to read and that even includes long messages from friends by text.
I have 3 children who do drain me out but I don't think that's the reason to my laziness. I've tried dieting and eating healthy and taking vitamins but I'm still always knackered and just so unmotivated:(
My advice would be to see your GP.
This could be caused by a number of factors. It could be viral, or it could be the early stages of depression, or it could be something as simple as not getting enough sleep.
Your GP will be able to help you find out the cause, and from there you can work out a solution.
Hi Sally,
I’m Kayleigh, one of the parent supporters at Netmums. It sounds like you are feeling exhausted and this is having a knock on impact on your motivation and focus. In our society, we place a lot of value in productivity, sometimes this can leave us even more pressured to be doing more. It sounds like you might be feeling frustrated with yourself Sally, but what you’re describing reads more like burn out than laziness.
I would agree with Kirk’s advice that it may be beneficial to speak to your GP to explore this further. If there is a physical issue you’re struggling with, this could become clear through bloodwork. From a mental health perspective, your GP could also refer you for more support if you both felt this would be helpful.
With three children to look after and a job I imagine there is a lot to juggle. None of us can do it all, all of the time. I hope you are getting some space to take care of yourself too, sometimes having time to yourself can allow us to recharge. There’s some information on parental burnout here and some tips on how to manage this: https://parents.actionforchildren.org.uk/parenting-relationships/parent-mental-health/parental-burnout-exhaustion/
I wonder if any of these signs resonate with you?
If you would like any further support from the parent supporter team, you can make a thread in our drop in clinic here: https://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/drop-clinic-984/
Take care,
Kayleigh
Sounds like burnout and unsurprising. We all hit a wall at some point. Being a parent and trying to maintain everything can be exhausting. I'd defo go gp as it could be start of depression, could be exhaustion, could be a deficiency in something. What you can do at the moment is look at your diet, are you eating well, how is your sleep etc? What you eat and how much you sleep you get is important also getting exercise as well. Even though I know that's prob the last thing you feel like doing. I'd start small with things though. So start with the Dr's app, look at the things you can do, maybe set certain days for certain things like cleaning, days out with kids etc. One important thing to do is set some you time in there. You are important and need to be OK. This could be a nice bath, face mask, painting your nails, a phonecall to a friend maybe, going out for a coffee etc.
Ask the doctor to check your iron count it might be low causing fatigue it was one of the 1st things they check on me when my energy levels dipped they also checked my thyroid that was fine but the iron was low so a course of iron tablets helped not that I was totally energised just enough to feel ok xx
I didn’t want to read and run, but I totally understand where you are coming from. Unless I need to go somewhere I just sit around in my pjs until 1.30/2pm nearly every day. I don’t work until 5pm so I just shower and get ready and leave. The only time I seem to get myself together is when I actually have to get out, like shopping, or appointments or if someone comes over.
it doesn’t help the fact I have a just tiren done year old who doesn’t ever seem to want to sleep, and only a handful of times has slept through the night.
Im putting my lack of motivation down to being stuck in a rut that I just can’t seem to get out of. I know what I’ve got to do, but no motivation and lack of energy and self esteem to do anything about it.
You can and will get through it, but just give yourself time. If you need to message me please feel free. Take care.
Please go to see your doctor as soon as you can, this sounds like you are sinking into depression and with 3 children to care for they need their mum back to normality as soon as she can. The doctor will understand and should be able to help with advice and may be medication. Hope you recover soon.